They certainly have the cute factor, don’t they and they are more than just pets, they are part of our family, aren’t they?
A lot of us have pets for out children, don’t we, for companionship or to help learn about responsibilities. Whatever the reason, we bond with them, love them, accept and welcome them into our home because they become a family member.
I believe a child and pets can interact in so many ways and a pet can be such a great comfort to a child, even just by talking to them could make all the difference to that child, especially if the child has no one else to speak out too.
One trait that perpetrators have is jealousy and they they are even jealous of their own children and pets can be seen as a target of abuse.
Pets are extremely loyal – and like children, soak up the environment, have divided loyalties and know no difference – and can be used as a weapon and tool in an abusive relationship so the perpetrator gets what they want by using power and control to get it, not caring who or what gets hurt in the process.
The human-animal bond provides the family with many benefits, including child development, however, the strength of this bond can be used to manipulate vulnerable people wuch as victims of domestic abuse. A perpetrator will use violence and threaten the family pet as a means of imposing control.
Perpetrators are more than likely aware that many victims are unable to take pets with them if they are fleeing from domestic abuse and with many victims feeling reluctant to leave their home or relationship, they will stay in that abusive relationship rather than abandon the family pet.
In many abusive relationships, sadly, pets are intimidated, injured or killed by perpetrators.
My ex partner killed a pet bird I brought for him as a birthday gift. He stabbed him with a knife, came into the bedroom to show me before he threw him out of the window – all because I wouldn’t stay up with him and went to bed.
People nor animals should ever tolderate domestic abuse – stronger laws are certainly needed.
I believe there is a link between a child and an animal relationship, not only because they have a special bond but because they are so beneficial to children too, especially those living in abusive environments. The child will feel more comfortable with the family pet because they are safe, help with social skills and help build up self esteem – a family pet can bring so many positive things to a child but all those positive things are things that perpetratos want to destroy.
We see having a pet in a positive light, in fact it cam help children in so many ways but perpetrators destroy this in order to maintain their power and control.