Suffolk Conservatives had been split over whether David Ruffley should stand down as an MP over his police caution for assaulting his ex-girlfriend, with his local association chairman saying he did not believe it “in any way qualifies as domestic abuse”.
My heart sinks and I shake my head in dismay. So, so sad. Such a sad society when adults can’t acknowledge what domestic abuse is.
A perpetrator assaulted there victim.
What actually does “qualify as domestic abuse”? Isolation, control, slap, punch, stalking, harassment, death?
How far does it really need to go before people understand “what qualifies as domestic abuse”?
What scares me is that these people are MP’s wanting to rule our country. I shake my head in dismay, what chance of our young people of the future got with ignorant attitudes such as this.
I see this as a clear cut of, men -vs- women, men can abuse the women but women can’t campaign against it?
It feels like we are living back in the cave times!
Speed subsequently told the East Anglian Daily Times: “I reiterate that I do not in any way condone domestic violence. Under CPS guidelines a caution for common assault may be considered ‘where there is no injury or injuries which are not serious.'”
Domestic abuse is not only about physical abuse, that physical abuse goes hand in hand with psychological abuse – if domestic abuse was a specific crime maybe society would actually understand that but then again if society took the time to learn about the complex cycle they would already know that.
“All these things happen behind closed doors. The police were called, and he was given a caution. Neither the police, nor the offended party, actually called for charges. Subsequently, as far as I was concerned, the matter was closed.
“It was a private matter, and as in most domestic issues, I suggest it was six of one and half-a-dozen of the other. Nobody really knows what went on.”
Oh please, please, please tell me I didn’t just read that!
Domestic abuse is not a private matter and it is not “six of one and half a dozen of other” but this attitude doesn’t surprise me when adults simply have no idea about domestic abuse. However, another classic sign of victim blaming.
To all the victims out there, male and female, I am so sorry that we live in such a negative, victim blaming and ignorant society where people just want to bury their head in the sand.
Thankfully you can hold your head up high because such people would never last one minute in your shoes.